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October 2017

in Inspiration, Uncategorized

3 Key Reasons to Forgive Even Without the Apology You May Never Receive

Most people would agree that when a person has wronged someone he or she should render an apology. This very popular opinion, however, is not always the case.  To be quite frank, many times the offender will never apologize for whatever reason. Consider these reasons as a motivation to forgive even if you never receive an apology.

Forgiveness is not intended to release the offender its purpose is to free the offended. Oftentimes we believe if we forgive we are forgiving the hurtful act.  This is not true, forgiveness in many cases can be used as a tool to regain your mental power in an effort not to be held hostage by the issue.

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in Business, Inspiration, Lifestyle

Credit is Both a Blessing and a Curse…

“I always feel like, somebody’s watching me ” – Rockwell

Do you know who is looking at your credit report?  Do you know your credit score?  The answer to these questions may surprise you.

There are some people that want you to believe that a credit score is not important.  It may not be essential in everyone’s life, but having a good credit score will save you a lot of money, and may influence more things than you realize.

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in Family, Lifestyle, Uncategorized

4 Things to Be Unapologetically Selfish About

You should know by now that I’m all for you taking those selfish moments to put your needs above everyone else. I’m not saying this needs to always be the case, but I am saying don’t consistently put you last. It’s not good for you mentally, spiritually, emotionally, or physically. That’s what #SelfishSaturdays are all about.

Here are 4 things that I’m unapologetically selfish about, that every woman should be selfish about as well. Continue reading

in Business

The Number One Business Question I Get Everyday..

I  get this question all day everyday.
Them:I want to start a business but everyone has that business.
Me: Soooooooooooooooooo!
Sooooooo!
Sooooooooooooooooooooo!
Sooooooo what!
No one is creating something that doesn’t already exist. Even if they discover a new strain of water, they gone be able to know it’s water based on testing it against the water that already exist.

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in Lifestyle

How to Make Your No Mean No in 3 Simple Steps

Many of us spend an enormous amount of time accommodating others. Whether in a career, business or personal setting, adhering to the needs and or desires of others can be draining.  Close friends and family members (you know the people who we are the closest to) are those that weigh heaviest on us.  In caring for elderly parents, children, significant others etc., we often find ourselves in a yes cycle even when our mouths say no. There are also oftentimes when we feel no is not an option due to our responsibilities.  Here are 3 simple steps to your guilt-free and stable no.

Set Healthy Boundaries

Setting healthy boundaries includes considering your daily routine and responsibilities.  For example: Let’s say you decide every Wednesday at 3:00 pm you are going to read for an hour. However, you didn’t consider your children usually arrive home at 3:15 daily, you have set an unhealthy boundary. Most likely you will find yourself full of aggravation when the children don’t adhere to your boundary.

Communicate Boundaries

Communicate plans with those who will be directly affected. You want to be sure to talk to your co-workers, team members, friends, and family. Lack of communication offers people the ability utilize “I didn’t know” as an excuse disturb your boundary.  If you set a boundary that’s not common knowledge for those who will be affected the boundary is unhealthy.

Implement and Enforce Boundaries

Implementing boundaries include having a strategic plan for how the boundaries will work with the multiple settings in your life. This means you have to ensure your responsibilities are able to function without you during the period you set-aside for your boundary. For instance, if you are a manager and you decide to have an administrative day where your office is closed to seeing people (employees, clients, etc.), it is imperative you have properly prepared Monday and Tuesday.  Enforcing boundaries can be difficult at first. Oftentimes the struggle is mostly because you are overly accommodating and available for others. If and when you are asked to compromise you your boundary you must remain strong and consistent in your NO.

 

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in Family, Lifestyle, Uncategorized

Don’t Feel Selfish Because You’re Not Doing It All

When is the last time you sat down and actually felt like you had time to breathe? Hopefully, at a minimum, it was last Saturday.

For me that may mean that the entire house won’t be cleaned, all the laundry won’t get washed and put away. It may even mean a drive-thru for dinner. But I’m not running ragged trying to get everything done when I’m falling apart. So I’ve learned over the years to stop trying to do everything for everyone, and have them pitch in.

Here are a couple tips that have saved me and my family from meltdowns and letdowns. Continue reading

in Business

“I Am My Only Competition” Said No Smart Business Person.. Ever!

Good business people make good business decisions most of the time. “I am my only competition” is what no one who runs business should say. Last time I checked, no one is creating anything that doesn’t already exist in some shape, form, or fashion.
Email is the same thing as mailing a letter as in Instagram is the same thing as scrapbooking. We use to drink water out of the faucet, now we drink it out the bottle. Nothing is created from scratch but everything is reinventing the wheel.

If you’re in business you have competition.
Google search engine competition is Bing and Yahoo.
The Waldorf competition is the Four Seasons and Ritz Carlton.
Sprint competition is T-Mobile and Verizon.
iPhone competition is Samsung.
Dells competition is HP so please miss me with “I don’t have competition” speech.
You can rephrase it and say “Motel 6 is not the competition of the Waldorf” which would be a true statement. Both are hotels but they serve a different caliber of clientele.
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in Family, Inspiration, Lifestyle

Be Selfish When It Comes To You

From the time we’re kids,  we’re taught to share, give, help out, put others first, and compromise. Then as we transition to girlfriends, wives,  and mothers, we continue to put everyone’s needs before our own. Then what happens?

You get tired, you get frustrated, you lose who you are, you forget who you want to be, and you just exist.

So going forward, every week, we’re going to be selfish.

By definition selfish means devoted to or caring only for oneself. And that’s exactly what we’re going to do. Continue reading

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