You should know by now that I’m all for you taking those selfish moments to put your needs above everyone else. I’m not saying this needs to always be the case, but I am saying don’t consistently put you last. It’s not good for you mentally, spiritually, emotionally, or physically. That’s what #SelfishSaturdays are all about.
Here are 4 things that I’m unapologetically selfish about, that every woman should be selfish about as well.
1. My time. I don’t need to go to every party, accept every invite, go somewhere when I really don’t want to. Have you ever seen the meme that says “Sorry I’m late, I didn’t want to come.” That used to be me. This new me is more “Why didn’t you invite me, even though we both know I’m not coming.” I’m selfish with my time because I understand that even though I have a lot of things to do, I’m not obligated to do all of them. I focus on things that HAVE to get done and that I actually enjoy doing, like laundry, working on my business, and reading my romance novels.
2. My money. Even though it’s pretty, doesn’t mean I’ll use it, wear it, or that I need it. Just because it’s on sale, doesn’t mean it’s a sale I need to partake in. I’m on a mission to be debt free and travel, so I’m selfish with my money. So before I pull my pretty wallet out I ask if this purchase is going to really BENEFIT me. If it isn’t, I admire and leave it where it is.
If you need to get selfish with your money, do this quick trick. Look in your closet, pull out all the stuff you had to have, put them in a pile and take a picture. Look at it next time you want to spend money on something you don’t need. Still doubtful, if they have the tags still on them, add it up. Yea, that money could have gone to something that could put you in a better position in life.
3. Myself. Everyone doesn’t need direct access to me. Sometimes all those extra opinions, fake happiness, and sneak jealousy makes me doubt the realness of others. So to avoid that, I keep the “access to me” circle small and “know of me” circle as wide as can be. One thing I love about Beyonce is we really only know of her, you know the parts she chooses to share with us.
4. My dreams. Everyone don’t need access to my thoughts, my dreams, or my visions. The last thing I need is someone projecting their negative beliefs on me. Trust, I have enough of my own doubts and fears, I don’t have room for theirs as well. So I hold those dreams to those who inspire and are just as protective of my dreams as I am.
Before you go sharing everything with everyone then wonder why you’re drained, unmotivated, and stuck where you are. Take a look to see if you’re giving everything to everyone and not getting anything in return. If so, then it’s time for you to get selfish with you. So guard your time, money, yourself, and your dreams. Be selfish with you.
Comment below what you’re going to start being selfish about.
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