When is the last time you sat down and actually felt like you had time to breathe? Hopefully, at a minimum, it was last Saturday.

For me that may mean that the entire house won’t be cleaned, all the laundry won’t get washed and put away. It may even mean a drive-thru for dinner. But I’m not running ragged trying to get everything done when I’m falling apart. So I’ve learned over the years to stop trying to do everything for everyone, and have them pitch in.

Here are a couple tips that have saved me and my family from meltdowns and letdowns. 

  1. Look at your upcoming schedule and see where you can let something go. I’m not a big planner, so I usually plan out only a week at a time. I prioritize by what needs to get done on what day.
  2. Prioritize what MUST get done and what can kinda sorta get done later. I found myself spending all my time on the weekend cleaning, laundry, errands, grocery shopping and then I went to sleep and it was time to go back to work. So I switched my entire schedule. I grocery shop Fridays after work, I’m already out just one stop on my way home. I do 2 loads of laundry on Mondays and Tuesdays for whatever reason this is the only way it will get completely done.
  3. What can you delegate to someone else? You don’t need to hold onto everything, and some things will still get done even if you don’t do them. I delegate part of laundry and household chores to my son.  Teamwork makes the dream work.
  4. Get help. Sometimes we’re struggling doing it all. We feel like people should see us struggling and offer to help. Well, most people aren’t mind-readers and if you don’t say anything they don’t know you’re sinking until you say “hey I need you to help out, NOW”.  It’s never too early to put kids to work.

Yes, it may take a bit longer in the beginning, but the end result is you’re not doing everything. And you can continue to be selfish with your Saturdays. Be sure to stop by www.TakishasTheory.com to pick up a journal to dream, plan, and figure out how to be selfish with you.

Comment below something that you’re willing to do to help you be more selfish.