Some things we experience are just difficult to accept. Life has the tenancy to (at times) slap the taste from your mouth (metaphorically speaking of course). Acceptance can be tough, however, it isn’t mentally healthy to dwell in a constant state of disbelief. At some point, your mental health requires a connection to reality. In other words, prolonged denial is detrimental to self-growth and personal development. Below I have outlined three things that are absolutely essential to avoiding detrimental denial.
Accept People: Accepting people for who they are can be a difficult task especially if the individuals happen to be loved ones. An attempt to reveal to an individual their unrealized potential can be compared to “beating a dead horse”. This is also true if a person has certain character traits that are not in alignment with yours. The two of you just may not be ethically compatible. These people may like to do things that you don’t like and you aren’t in agreement with. Heck, they may have done something to you on more than one occasion and you keep deciding to deal with them the SAME WAY (and then you get mad).There’s a saying “if a dog bites you once shame on it if the dog bites you twice shame on you”. Know people for who they tell and show you they are.
Accept Issues: Accepting issues is definitely a task easier said than done. There are issues that happen in our lives that quite frankly we don’t want to admit or remember so, of course, these are things that one may find difficult to accept. Accepting issues does not mean you are settled with what happened. To accept simply means you are willing to face the reality of said issue in an effort to begin your healing process.
Give Yourself Permission: Once you make the decision to accept people and issues for who and what they are a healthy practice is to give yourself permission to feel. Stop claiming “I’m cool I’m over it” stop lying! If you are angry, sad, disappointed that’s perfectly okay and normal. Allow yourself to process the feelings, this, however, is not a free ticket to “behave irrationally” or do things in retaliation of hurts etc.. that’ll end up costing you more than the individual you were wronged by. Instead, find a good friend to talk to or a journal to write-out your feelings in.
Bottom line, acceptance is key to eliminating prolonged detrimental denial. It’s not always easy to face facts however the quicker you decide to take the blinders off the faster your healing process can begin.
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