Without even trying expectations are placed on people that they may not be able to satisfy. There is this notion that people ought know certain things and for this reason many individuals are left disappointed. The one term that really aggravates me is “common sense”. But common sense for who, by who and according to who. Truth be told common sense differs for many reasons (culture, class, religion, race etc.). Your “common sense” may not be that of your child, friend, spouse, lover etc. and vice versa. If common sense was so very common when a person applied for and secured a job he or she wouldn’t need a job description. I applied for a job as a person, I understand what a janitor does so common sense should tell me I’m suppose to clean
If one never communicates what he or she expects unfortunately the expectations are empty and unhealthy. Empty because this gives the argument “how was I suppose to know you expected that”. Unhealthy because if someone doesn’t satisfy your “expectation” it could cause you unnecessary stress.
Here are three things to consider doing when setting expectations that could be viewed as silent: