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3 Standards to Set To Keep You Sane

Too often as women, we go through the motions trying to keep the peace and going through the motions. But sometimes you have to shake ish up. You have to realize that you are worth more, should be treated better, and deserve it ALL. But how do you do that if you’ve never done it before?

  1. Realize that people treat you how you allow them to. So it’s time to pull your big girl lace panties on and let people know that what they’re doing doesn’t work for you anymore. They can’t say those things without repercussions. That you don’t tolerate it anymore. And stand firm on it. I don’t tolerate negative people in my space, at all. If someone doesn’t speak positivity I will remove myself from the situation, immediately.
  2. Set boundaries that protect you. You can’t give everything to everyone all the time. It depletes your spirit. Life is challenging for everyone, but it’s how you deal with it. I have enough things going on in my life that I will not add yours to it. I’m here as a friend but you will not transfer your negative energy to me. Let’s get the bad out, so we can work on the positive. And those who don’t want to see the positive, I limit my interactions with them.
  3. Step away and recharge yourself. Do those selfishly indulgent things for yourself. The ones you’ve been putting off because you won’t make the time. Enjoy the fruits of you working hard. Plan for your future. Dream a little, envision the life and lifestyle you want. Then go work for it.  I take time to disconnect from everything when I’m feeling out of sorts. I need to get my mind right and focus on me. Making me a better person and I do with unapologetically. I’m my first priority.

It’s time for you to shake ish up so you’re not kept down. Make sure you book your session now because you’ve been putting off your dreams too long, let me help you set your boundaries, & coach you out of your comfort zone into living the life you want. Not the one others want for you.

Takisha

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Let Your Excuses Go

I’m the first to admit that doing something new makes me uneasy. I could think of 7 reasons why I didn’t have time to do it, 4 reasons why I couldn’t do it, and 26 other self-justified reasons why I hadn’t started but I ultimately realized that it was only 1 thing stopping me. Well 2, me and the excuses I let myself believe.

I realized if I wanted to start taking action I had to do something different. I had to stop allowing the excuses to keep me stagnant. In order to do that I had to shift my mindset from excuse to execution.

When an excuse pops into my head I do these 4 steps to push past it.

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Selfishly Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Something was off and I just wasn’t happy. I was going through the daily motions of work & home, lost in the daily routine of life. And I was digging myself deeper into this self-imposed box called my comfort zone. I wanted out. So I did a LOT of mindset work, had some new experiences, and haven’t looked back since.

It’s easy to say step out of your comfort zone, but embracing something new can be scary. Especially if you don’t have a support system you can lean on. Lean on me, I’ve been in that zone, and it’s one I don’t want to go back into.

So here are a couple tips to boost you into stepping out of your comfort zone even quicker. Pick an area that needs to be shaken up and go for it. Hey, your love life isn’t the only thing you need to keep hot and fresh, lol.

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Selfishly reclaim your life

Time waits for no man or a beautiful woman.

Do you guys remember when Aunt Maxine had everyone raving about reclaiming our time?

But what about reclaiming your dreams, reclaiming what you deserve, reclaiming the woman you want to be?

Are you ready to reclaim that? Or are you going to sit by in complacency stuck watching everyone else live their dreams? That’s not you. That’s not a part of the plan.

You need to selfishly fight for what you want and need.

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Don’t let your glow up make you selfish

Let’s start by defining glow up, according to Urban Dictionary, it’s to go from the bottom to the top to the point of disbelief; an incredible transformation. As we enter the second half of the year, I can’t help but reflect on what an amazing year this has been for me personally and professionally. Everyone that I’ve met this year has been making strides to truly glow up and make sure that those with them do as well.

But what happens when someone you want to glow up, doesn’t want the same thing?

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Selfishly Recharge Yourself

Make sure that as you’re enjoying summer, you enjoy yourself as well. You know what I mean, needing a vacation after the vacation. Entertaining the kids & family. All the new hotspots, nights out, zoos & museums can leave you fulfilled intellectually but drained at the same time. As you’re enjoying the beautiful weather, don’t burn yourself out by doing too much.

Take some time to enjoy and recharge you as well.

Here are a couple tips to help you recharge yourself.

  1. Acknowledge that you’re weary and you’re ready to get back to you. Enough is enough.
  2. Have a conversation with God/Universe/ whoever you believe in. Get back to the source of who leads your life.
  3. Stay positive. Remind yourself that you’ve been through worse before and you’ve come out on the others side.
  4. Pep talk yourself. Your mind believes what you tell it. So tell it you whatever you need to get you through this.
  5. Get quiet, pray or meditate.
  6. Listen to something positive and motivational. Who do you listen to that will get is together? For me Mary Mary, I Survive and Beyonce’s I’m Feeling Myself, these are my push through and get it together songs.
  7. Distance yourself from the negative until you’re recharged. I distance myself from negativity when I’m down, I don’t need any other bullshit in my life.
  8. Do what you need for you to see the sunshine. Take a long hard look at what’s gonna get your out of this, then actually DO IT.
  9. Escape for a few minutes. My morning shower is my daily escape to recharge myself.
  10. Read what you need more of. If you need strength read about how to get it, if you need motivation read how to keep it. There are so many resources available like this blog, books, and articles to help you with whatever you need.

Hopefully, this list helps you selfishly recharge when you’ve given all you have to everyone else. Remember when you’re ready to give in or give up. Stop. Center yourself and figure out what you need and do it, or try some of the above tips to help you figure it out. Connect back to you. Make time for what’s important, and that is selfishly you.

Comment below some tips you use to recharge.

Takisha

www.TakishasTheory.com

 

 

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The Double Headed Monster…Generational Curses

Generational curses aren’t solely spiritually based. When we think about this topic the word “Curse” makes this cliché pretty scary and depending on if you’re a bible thumper or not determines how you see the term.  I do believe there is some validity to spiritual generational curses. However, it is also my belief that because this term has been deemed “spiritual or religious” many miss the message in understanding Generational curses. I realize that when we’re born we are systematically molded into who we are and or how we should do things. For that reason, I have noted below just 3 of what I refer to as “environmental curses” that can cause us to have a delay in our personal-development. Take a look in an attempt to bring awareness to some of the issues that could be the reason for the hesitation in your personal-growth.

  • Appearance

Lately I’ve taken some time to really look into how my family was raised and I noticed that the women in the family and even the men aren’t the best dressed people.  We were only taught to be “neat and clean”.  I really hadn’t noticed that I was raised to be a very relaxed dressing person until I started feeling bad for wanting to wear makeup.  My aunt (who raised me) would always say “you aint gotta look like a clown everyday” (wear makeup) to look nice. She instead only instructed us to bathe twice a day and wear “clean draws”.

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Stop Feeding Self-doubt With Your What If’s

Just wondering if you’ve ever been in a what if debate with yourself.  You know the type of debate that holds your aspirations hostage. You have an idea or dream to go for a certain goal you want to attain, be it starting a business, applying for a job even as simple as purchasing a gift for someone you love.  The what if debate talks us out of the desires of our hearts by simply weighing the outcome of things on the negative side of if.  For example: “I want to start a book club but what if no one joins”.  I thought about this a little further and realized that what if has more than likely been the demise of many great ideas.  I have a challenge for you and the what if’s in your life. For the next week try to assume every if is positive.  Here’s what I mean, take the example above, “what if I start a book club and have numerous members”.  Here are 3 tips that’ll help you redirect your negative what if thoughts.

  1. Recognize when the negative if’s thoughts are happening
  2. Picture yourself in the midst of the exact scenario if the idea happened just how you desired
  3. Push past the fear and take action anyway.

Don’t get me wrong, there will be times when things don’t go the way you plan, however, if you never try it’ll never go the way you plan.  Don’t allow what if’s to paralyze your dreams, goals, and aspirations instead allow them to be the fuel to move you to go after everything you want.

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Until next allow your What If’s to be positive and be dope!

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Their Abilities v/s Your Expectations

Without even trying expectations are placed on people that they may not be able to satisfy.  There is this notion that people ought know certain things and for this reason many individuals are left disappointed.  The one term that really aggravates me is “common sense”. But common sense for who, by who and according to who.  Truth be told common sense differs for many reasons (culture, class, religion, race etc.). Your “common sense” may not be that of your child, friend, spouse, lover etc. and vice versa.  If common sense was so very common when a person applied for and secured a job he or she wouldn’t need a job description. I applied for a job as a person, I understand what a janitor does so common sense should tell me I’m suppose to clean

If one never communicates what he or she expects unfortunately the expectations are empty and unhealthy.  Empty because this gives the argument “how was I suppose to know you expected that”. Unhealthy because if someone doesn’t satisfy your “expectation” it could cause you unnecessary stress.

Here are three things to consider doing when setting expectations that could be viewed as silent:

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Do You Have Any Self-Compassion?

Surely you’ve heard the saying “we are our own worst critic”.  This sad but undeniable truth can oftentimes be more detrimental to our emotional health then we know.  There are instances when we are extremely hard or ourselves and we offer compassion to anyone but ourselves.  The idea of self-compassion is not a leeway to self-pity; instead, it’s intended to help us learn from what we perceive our mistakes are.  Consider this; if a close friend or your child were to share a situation they were really down on themselves about you’d have the ability to pull various positive aspects of their situation. You’d convey to them different approaches they could try in the future as well as what skill and or lessons they could learn from their situation.  Why is this process so difficult for individuals to implement? Check out this video I found by School of Life on YouTube.  Self-Compassion Exercise by, The School of Life 

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