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3 Standards to Set To Keep You Sane

Too often as women, we go through the motions trying to keep the peace and going through the motions. But sometimes you have to shake ish up. You have to realize that you are worth more, should be treated better, and deserve it ALL. But how do you do that if you’ve never done it before?

  1. Realize that people treat you how you allow them to. So it’s time to pull your big girl lace panties on and let people know that what they’re doing doesn’t work for you anymore. They can’t say those things without repercussions. That you don’t tolerate it anymore. And stand firm on it. I don’t tolerate negative people in my space, at all. If someone doesn’t speak positivity I will remove myself from the situation, immediately.
  2. Set boundaries that protect you. You can’t give everything to everyone all the time. It depletes your spirit. Life is challenging for everyone, but it’s how you deal with it. I have enough things going on in my life that I will not add yours to it. I’m here as a friend but you will not transfer your negative energy to me. Let’s get the bad out, so we can work on the positive. And those who don’t want to see the positive, I limit my interactions with them.
  3. Step away and recharge yourself. Do those selfishly indulgent things for yourself. The ones you’ve been putting off because you won’t make the time. Enjoy the fruits of you working hard. Plan for your future. Dream a little, envision the life and lifestyle you want. Then go work for it.  I take time to disconnect from everything when I’m feeling out of sorts. I need to get my mind right and focus on me. Making me a better person and I do with unapologetically. I’m my first priority.

It’s time for you to shake ish up so you’re not kept down. Make sure you book your session now because you’ve been putting off your dreams too long, let me help you set your boundaries, & coach you out of your comfort zone into living the life you want. Not the one others want for you.

Takisha

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Let Your Excuses Go

I’m the first to admit that doing something new makes me uneasy. I could think of 7 reasons why I didn’t have time to do it, 4 reasons why I couldn’t do it, and 26 other self-justified reasons why I hadn’t started but I ultimately realized that it was only 1 thing stopping me. Well 2, me and the excuses I let myself believe.

I realized if I wanted to start taking action I had to do something different. I had to stop allowing the excuses to keep me stagnant. In order to do that I had to shift my mindset from excuse to execution.

When an excuse pops into my head I do these 4 steps to push past it.

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Selfishly Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Something was off and I just wasn’t happy. I was going through the daily motions of work & home, lost in the daily routine of life. And I was digging myself deeper into this self-imposed box called my comfort zone. I wanted out. So I did a LOT of mindset work, had some new experiences, and haven’t looked back since.

It’s easy to say step out of your comfort zone, but embracing something new can be scary. Especially if you don’t have a support system you can lean on. Lean on me, I’ve been in that zone, and it’s one I don’t want to go back into.

So here are a couple tips to boost you into stepping out of your comfort zone even quicker. Pick an area that needs to be shaken up and go for it. Hey, your love life isn’t the only thing you need to keep hot and fresh, lol.

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It’s Time For A Checkup

With back to school approaching, it’s time to come out of hiding and start getting ready for new beginnings and fresh starts. You probably haven’t thought about making sure that you’re good. But you know that what #SelfishSaturdays are all about, this week we’re making sure you get a couple checkups. Yes, you need different kinds of checkups, you’re trying to live healthy and wealthy.

Your spirituality. Whatever you believe in, take time to get closer to it. Pray more, meditate more, look for more ways to show your faith. Find new ways you can show your faithfulness and kindness to others as well.

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Selfishly reclaim your life

Time waits for no man or a beautiful woman.

Do you guys remember when Aunt Maxine had everyone raving about reclaiming our time?

But what about reclaiming your dreams, reclaiming what you deserve, reclaiming the woman you want to be?

Are you ready to reclaim that? Or are you going to sit by in complacency stuck watching everyone else live their dreams? That’s not you. That’s not a part of the plan.

You need to selfishly fight for what you want and need.

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Selfishly seek growth in your life

I want you to promise me something. That today will be the last day you play it small.

That from this day forward you will dream big, live bigger, seek the biggest, and demand greatness in every aspect of your life. Envision your life and dreams until it seems so big it scares you. Remind yourself that you deserve the best and you’ll have it no other way. I want you to start seeking and living a life of excellence.

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Don’t let your glow up make you selfish

Let’s start by defining glow up, according to Urban Dictionary, it’s to go from the bottom to the top to the point of disbelief; an incredible transformation. As we enter the second half of the year, I can’t help but reflect on what an amazing year this has been for me personally and professionally. Everyone that I’ve met this year has been making strides to truly glow up and make sure that those with them do as well.

But what happens when someone you want to glow up, doesn’t want the same thing?

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Selfishly Recharge Yourself

Make sure that as you’re enjoying summer, you enjoy yourself as well. You know what I mean, needing a vacation after the vacation. Entertaining the kids & family. All the new hotspots, nights out, zoos & museums can leave you fulfilled intellectually but drained at the same time. As you’re enjoying the beautiful weather, don’t burn yourself out by doing too much.

Take some time to enjoy and recharge you as well.

Here are a couple tips to help you recharge yourself.

  1. Acknowledge that you’re weary and you’re ready to get back to you. Enough is enough.
  2. Have a conversation with God/Universe/ whoever you believe in. Get back to the source of who leads your life.
  3. Stay positive. Remind yourself that you’ve been through worse before and you’ve come out on the others side.
  4. Pep talk yourself. Your mind believes what you tell it. So tell it you whatever you need to get you through this.
  5. Get quiet, pray or meditate.
  6. Listen to something positive and motivational. Who do you listen to that will get is together? For me Mary Mary, I Survive and Beyonce’s I’m Feeling Myself, these are my push through and get it together songs.
  7. Distance yourself from the negative until you’re recharged. I distance myself from negativity when I’m down, I don’t need any other bullshit in my life.
  8. Do what you need for you to see the sunshine. Take a long hard look at what’s gonna get your out of this, then actually DO IT.
  9. Escape for a few minutes. My morning shower is my daily escape to recharge myself.
  10. Read what you need more of. If you need strength read about how to get it, if you need motivation read how to keep it. There are so many resources available like this blog, books, and articles to help you with whatever you need.

Hopefully, this list helps you selfishly recharge when you’ve given all you have to everyone else. Remember when you’re ready to give in or give up. Stop. Center yourself and figure out what you need and do it, or try some of the above tips to help you figure it out. Connect back to you. Make time for what’s important, and that is selfishly you.

Comment below some tips you use to recharge.

Takisha

www.TakishasTheory.com

 

 

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5 Things to Selfishly Improve Yourself

Every once in a while you need to get out of your day-to-day and escape into something that will actually benefit your future self.

I’m all for catching up on season 3 of whatever, watching the train wreck of the new series of ratchet tv, or being immersed into the characters in my beloved romance novels.

None of those make you or I better, well except maybe to think how grateful we are that we aren’t them. But what about being as addicted to doing things that are actually going to inspire, educate, empower, or help you to become a better person?

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Selfishly Start Working On You NOW!

Only you know where you want the rest of the year to go. Start reflecting on what you were able to accomplish this year, what went well, what you just didn’t make time for or get to. What promises didn’t you keep to yourself? Are you committed to doing them now? Great. You know things like leaving all that negativity behind, being aware of who is really down for you and deciding what’s best for you. You know positive thoughts and actions breed positive results.

Start with these 3 things to start working on you:

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