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It’s Time For A Checkup

With back to school approaching, it’s time to come out of hiding and start getting ready for new beginnings and fresh starts. You probably haven’t thought about making sure that you’re good. But you know that what #SelfishSaturdays are all about, this week we’re making sure you get a couple checkups. Yes, you need different kinds of checkups, you’re trying to live healthy and wealthy.

Your spirituality. Whatever you believe in, take time to get closer to it. Pray more, meditate more, look for more ways to show your faith. Find new ways you can show your faithfulness and kindness to others as well.

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Selfishly reclaim your life

Time waits for no man or a beautiful woman.

Do you guys remember when Aunt Maxine had everyone raving about reclaiming our time?

But what about reclaiming your dreams, reclaiming what you deserve, reclaiming the woman you want to be?

Are you ready to reclaim that? Or are you going to sit by in complacency stuck watching everyone else live their dreams? That’s not you. That’s not a part of the plan.

You need to selfishly fight for what you want and need.

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The Double Headed Monster…Generational Curses

Generational curses aren’t solely spiritually based. When we think about this topic the word “Curse” makes this cliché pretty scary and depending on if you’re a bible thumper or not determines how you see the term.  I do believe there is some validity to spiritual generational curses. However, it is also my belief that because this term has been deemed “spiritual or religious” many miss the message in understanding Generational curses. I realize that when we’re born we are systematically molded into who we are and or how we should do things. For that reason, I have noted below just 3 of what I refer to as “environmental curses” that can cause us to have a delay in our personal-development. Take a look in an attempt to bring awareness to some of the issues that could be the reason for the hesitation in your personal-growth.

  • Appearance

Lately I’ve taken some time to really look into how my family was raised and I noticed that the women in the family and even the men aren’t the best dressed people.  We were only taught to be “neat and clean”.  I really hadn’t noticed that I was raised to be a very relaxed dressing person until I started feeling bad for wanting to wear makeup.  My aunt (who raised me) would always say “you aint gotta look like a clown everyday” (wear makeup) to look nice. She instead only instructed us to bathe twice a day and wear “clean draws”.

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Selfishly Start Working On You NOW!

Only you know where you want the rest of the year to go. Start reflecting on what you were able to accomplish this year, what went well, what you just didn’t make time for or get to. What promises didn’t you keep to yourself? Are you committed to doing them now? Great. You know things like leaving all that negativity behind, being aware of who is really down for you and deciding what’s best for you. You know positive thoughts and actions breed positive results.

Start with these 3 things to start working on you:

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Who are you waiting on to tell you you’re great?

You are the only one who can live the incredible life ahead of you. But you have to go for it. You have to stop holding on to what he, she, and they said. They don’t want what’s best for you. They want to say the meanest and cruelest things they think you might believe so you can start doubting your greatness. Once that little bit of doubt is planted, they know you’ll start questioning your full potential.

We’ve all had situations where life has gotten the best of us and we’ve had to crawl back to the top. Now that you’re at the top, don’t be the one to make you slide back down.

Seek your own validation, qualifications, and self-worth.

When people tell me their opinions about what I can and can’t do, sometimes I ignore them because obviously, they’re a non-f’ing factor. Other times I tell them to “kiss my a$$” and prove them wrong.

I’m not waiting for anyone to tell me I’m great. I tell myself that in the mirror when I put my moisturizer on.

If this is hard for you I need you to do one thing:

  1. Get give yourself a positive affirmation that you can pep talk yourself into believing. As Jay Z says “Let me be great”. Here’s an affirmation from my Affirmations Journal, “I am becoming who I dreamed of being.” You can get your copy on www.TakishasTheory.com. So stop waiting for someone to tell you who you are, you tell them.

“You are capable of achieving everything you want, you just have to work and believe it.”  

Just in case you still are waiting for someone to tell you to be great. There you go. #KiToldMe


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3 Ways to Activate a Positive State of Mind

In the world of which we live, unfortunately there are countless ways for us to have or enter into a negative emotional state.  Let’s think about this it for a second, even if life is wonderful for you right now, everything is working in your favor and life is looking up negativity can come .  As soon as you get out of bed there is potential for your emotions to be shifted to a negative place.  Imagine this; you decide you want to be dressed for the weather and you turn your local news station on, more than likely you will hear something disturbing.  This is just one of the many ways that negativity organically seeps into our minds.

Check out ways to activate a positive state of mind below.

  • Practice Gratitude. The only way (in my opinion) to open doors for new and bigger opportunities is to be grateful for the ones you already have. This is not to suggest you become comfortable or content with where you are at all. It’s a great thing to have the desire to do more. On the other hand however, one has to be careful not to sit in a seat of ungratefulness just because the desires of your heart are grand

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