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3 Standards to Set To Keep You Sane

Too often as women, we go through the motions trying to keep the peace and going through the motions. But sometimes you have to shake ish up. You have to realize that you are worth more, should be treated better, and deserve it ALL. But how do you do that if you’ve never done it before?

  1. Realize that people treat you how you allow them to. So it’s time to pull your big girl lace panties on and let people know that what they’re doing doesn’t work for you anymore. They can’t say those things without repercussions. That you don’t tolerate it anymore. And stand firm on it. I don’t tolerate negative people in my space, at all. If someone doesn’t speak positivity I will remove myself from the situation, immediately.
  2. Set boundaries that protect you. You can’t give everything to everyone all the time. It depletes your spirit. Life is challenging for everyone, but it’s how you deal with it. I have enough things going on in my life that I will not add yours to it. I’m here as a friend but you will not transfer your negative energy to me. Let’s get the bad out, so we can work on the positive. And those who don’t want to see the positive, I limit my interactions with them.
  3. Step away and recharge yourself. Do those selfishly indulgent things for yourself. The ones you’ve been putting off because you won’t make the time. Enjoy the fruits of you working hard. Plan for your future. Dream a little, envision the life and lifestyle you want. Then go work for it.  I take time to disconnect from everything when I’m feeling out of sorts. I need to get my mind right and focus on me. Making me a better person and I do with unapologetically. I’m my first priority.

It’s time for you to shake ish up so you’re not kept down. Make sure you book your session now because you’ve been putting off your dreams too long, let me help you set your boundaries, & coach you out of your comfort zone into living the life you want. Not the one others want for you.

Takisha

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Selfishly Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Something was off and I just wasn’t happy. I was going through the daily motions of work & home, lost in the daily routine of life. And I was digging myself deeper into this self-imposed box called my comfort zone. I wanted out. So I did a LOT of mindset work, had some new experiences, and haven’t looked back since.

It’s easy to say step out of your comfort zone, but embracing something new can be scary. Especially if you don’t have a support system you can lean on. Lean on me, I’ve been in that zone, and it’s one I don’t want to go back into.

So here are a couple tips to boost you into stepping out of your comfort zone even quicker. Pick an area that needs to be shaken up and go for it. Hey, your love life isn’t the only thing you need to keep hot and fresh, lol.

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It’s Time For A Checkup

With back to school approaching, it’s time to come out of hiding and start getting ready for new beginnings and fresh starts. You probably haven’t thought about making sure that you’re good. But you know that what #SelfishSaturdays are all about, this week we’re making sure you get a couple checkups. Yes, you need different kinds of checkups, you’re trying to live healthy and wealthy.

Your spirituality. Whatever you believe in, take time to get closer to it. Pray more, meditate more, look for more ways to show your faith. Find new ways you can show your faithfulness and kindness to others as well.

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Don’t let your glow up make you selfish

Let’s start by defining glow up, according to Urban Dictionary, it’s to go from the bottom to the top to the point of disbelief; an incredible transformation. As we enter the second half of the year, I can’t help but reflect on what an amazing year this has been for me personally and professionally. Everyone that I’ve met this year has been making strides to truly glow up and make sure that those with them do as well.

But what happens when someone you want to glow up, doesn’t want the same thing?

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Selfishly Recharge Yourself

Make sure that as you’re enjoying summer, you enjoy yourself as well. You know what I mean, needing a vacation after the vacation. Entertaining the kids & family. All the new hotspots, nights out, zoos & museums can leave you fulfilled intellectually but drained at the same time. As you’re enjoying the beautiful weather, don’t burn yourself out by doing too much.

Take some time to enjoy and recharge you as well.

Here are a couple tips to help you recharge yourself.

  1. Acknowledge that you’re weary and you’re ready to get back to you. Enough is enough.
  2. Have a conversation with God/Universe/ whoever you believe in. Get back to the source of who leads your life.
  3. Stay positive. Remind yourself that you’ve been through worse before and you’ve come out on the others side.
  4. Pep talk yourself. Your mind believes what you tell it. So tell it you whatever you need to get you through this.
  5. Get quiet, pray or meditate.
  6. Listen to something positive and motivational. Who do you listen to that will get is together? For me Mary Mary, I Survive and Beyonce’s I’m Feeling Myself, these are my push through and get it together songs.
  7. Distance yourself from the negative until you’re recharged. I distance myself from negativity when I’m down, I don’t need any other bullshit in my life.
  8. Do what you need for you to see the sunshine. Take a long hard look at what’s gonna get your out of this, then actually DO IT.
  9. Escape for a few minutes. My morning shower is my daily escape to recharge myself.
  10. Read what you need more of. If you need strength read about how to get it, if you need motivation read how to keep it. There are so many resources available like this blog, books, and articles to help you with whatever you need.

Hopefully, this list helps you selfishly recharge when you’ve given all you have to everyone else. Remember when you’re ready to give in or give up. Stop. Center yourself and figure out what you need and do it, or try some of the above tips to help you figure it out. Connect back to you. Make time for what’s important, and that is selfishly you.

Comment below some tips you use to recharge.

Takisha

www.TakishasTheory.com

 

 

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Selfishly Start Working On You NOW!

Only you know where you want the rest of the year to go. Start reflecting on what you were able to accomplish this year, what went well, what you just didn’t make time for or get to. What promises didn’t you keep to yourself? Are you committed to doing them now? Great. You know things like leaving all that negativity behind, being aware of who is really down for you and deciding what’s best for you. You know positive thoughts and actions breed positive results.

Start with these 3 things to start working on you:

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Selfishly Finish Strong

It’s time to prepare for the second half of the year. No, we aren’t waiting until January to figure this out. We’re starting now. You know all the plans and dreams you had before life got in the way. Have you thought about what would make you a better you? What does your life look like for the remainder of the year? What do you need to take action to fulfill your dreams?

When 2018 started I had to get honest with myself and ask “what exactly does Takisha want? And how is she going to get it.”

Trust me there was a time I didn’t have any idea. I barely knew who Takisha was anymore. I didn’t have time to dream or think about anything but the present because it was always something else that needed to be taken care of. Then I didn’t feel emotionally ready to unload all the ideas and thoughts I had in my head. So I kept pushing it off until I eventually forgot about it and what I wanted. Don’t let this be you.

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Who are you waiting on to tell you you’re great?

You are the only one who can live the incredible life ahead of you. But you have to go for it. You have to stop holding on to what he, she, and they said. They don’t want what’s best for you. They want to say the meanest and cruelest things they think you might believe so you can start doubting your greatness. Once that little bit of doubt is planted, they know you’ll start questioning your full potential.

We’ve all had situations where life has gotten the best of us and we’ve had to crawl back to the top. Now that you’re at the top, don’t be the one to make you slide back down.

Seek your own validation, qualifications, and self-worth.

When people tell me their opinions about what I can and can’t do, sometimes I ignore them because obviously, they’re a non-f’ing factor. Other times I tell them to “kiss my a$$” and prove them wrong.

I’m not waiting for anyone to tell me I’m great. I tell myself that in the mirror when I put my moisturizer on.

If this is hard for you I need you to do one thing:

  1. Get give yourself a positive affirmation that you can pep talk yourself into believing. As Jay Z says “Let me be great”. Here’s an affirmation from my Affirmations Journal, “I am becoming who I dreamed of being.” You can get your copy on www.TakishasTheory.com. So stop waiting for someone to tell you who you are, you tell them.

“You are capable of achieving everything you want, you just have to work and believe it.”  

Just in case you still are waiting for someone to tell you to be great. There you go. #KiToldMe

Takisha 

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3 ways Not to Allow Resentment to Become a Silent Happiness Killer

Sometimes I wonder if the reason some people are so favorable to everyone because they support others with no regard for self.  Are you someone who has a habit of trying to accommodate others even when it’s a detriment to your own plans and or schedule? Don’t get me wrong selflessness is a good attribute to have (sometimes).  However, this character trait has the ability to be a double edge sword. If one isn’t careful it is very probable he or she will begin to build resentments.  Below outlines three ways not to allow resentment to build slowly and become a silent killer of your happiness.

  1. Say No. There are times when you would like to be accommodating and quite frankly you must say no. Meeting the needs of everyone in your life and they just so happened not to carry the same trait can build resentments. Have you ever heard the saying “treat others like you want to be treated”? This is a quote that I somewhat I agree and disagree with. Many people don’t share the same kind of character traits. It’s a bad idea to look for identical treatment in return, and those do will ultimately be disappointed.
  2. Communicate your feelings. It’s reasonable to make the decision to “pick your battles”. I would challenge you though, to weigh the possible outcome. Have you ever experienced “trying to keep the peace” and not mention an aggravation you encountered and every time you turn around you continue to have the experience until you go off?  Just when you’ve had enough the other party or parties appear to be oblivious to your irritation. Picking your battles doesn’t call for you to allow people, situations and or dislikes to hold you mentally hostage.  The earlier you communicate your feelings the sooner you can deal with the situation.
  3. Tell yourself yes. Treat yourself to something nice every and then. Depending on your life situation you are obligated to many responsibilities. The thing I’ve found to be a commonality is people tend to drop the ball to their most important responsibility, themselves.  This is not to offer advice to enter into irresponsible behavior. Even if you do something small, for example, getting a manicure once or twice a month or even taking yourself for coffee or lunch. Saying yes to yourself doesn’t mean you have to break the bank.  This practice gives you a sense of satisfaction for all the hard work and good you do.

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Selfishly Push Yourself

Ladies, it’s almost the end of January and I want to know how you’re doing on your goals? If all you’ve done is write them down in your pretty notebook, I need to get pull it back out. You need to get clear on what goals you really are going to be committed to actually accomplishing. We all know about setting SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Result focused, and Time-bound) goals. But are you giving yourself too much time?

I had to push my goals into overdrive because I realized I would write my to-do list for the week, then do the majority of them Thursday & Friday. I have no clue what I was doing those other days, but it wasn’t productive and I was wasting time. Time, that I kept saying I didn’t have.

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