in Business, Inspiration, Lifestyle

Let Your Excuses Go

I’m the first to admit that doing something new makes me uneasy. I could think of 7 reasons why I didn’t have time to do it, 4 reasons why I couldn’t do it, and 26 other self-justified reasons why I hadn’t started but I ultimately realized that it was only 1 thing stopping me. Well 2, me and the excuses I let myself believe.

I realized if I wanted to start taking action I had to do something different. I had to stop allowing the excuses to keep me stagnant. In order to do that I had to shift my mindset from excuse to execution.

When an excuse pops into my head I do these 4 steps to push past it.

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4 Tips To Build Your Biz While Working A 9-5

Most entrepreneurs go through or at least understand the struggle of working a soul draining 9-5 while also having your own business to run. At your 9-5 you probably have to deal with an obnoxious boss or coworkers. Then when you come home you’re probably exhausted or have other important matters to tend to, leaving your business, your dream, unattended.  This transition time can be stressful and difficult, and while ambition is important, it is not always enough to move you forward. Maintaining your motivation and drive during your transition from employee to entrepreneur is crucial. It’s easy to veer off course and get discouraged during this transitional phase. Fear not, this happens to many entrepreneurs and it could feel like you’re pulled in different directions but there are ways to overcome this and work towards giving your business that extra love it needs.

Here’s four tips you can implement in order to run a business while working a 9-5:

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Selfishly reclaim your life

Time waits for no man or a beautiful woman.

Do you guys remember when Aunt Maxine had everyone raving about reclaiming our time?

But what about reclaiming your dreams, reclaiming what you deserve, reclaiming the woman you want to be?

Are you ready to reclaim that? Or are you going to sit by in complacency stuck watching everyone else live their dreams? That’s not you. That’s not a part of the plan.

You need to selfishly fight for what you want and need.

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in Beauty, Inspiration, Lifestyle, Travel

Selfishly seek growth in your life

I want you to promise me something. That today will be the last day you play it small.

That from this day forward you will dream big, live bigger, seek the biggest, and demand greatness in every aspect of your life. Envision your life and dreams until it seems so big it scares you. Remind yourself that you deserve the best and you’ll have it no other way. I want you to start seeking and living a life of excellence.

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Do You Have Any Self-Compassion?

Surely you’ve heard the saying “we are our own worst critic”.  This sad but undeniable truth can oftentimes be more detrimental to our emotional health then we know.  There are instances when we are extremely hard or ourselves and we offer compassion to anyone but ourselves.  The idea of self-compassion is not a leeway to self-pity; instead, it’s intended to help us learn from what we perceive our mistakes are.  Consider this; if a close friend or your child were to share a situation they were really down on themselves about you’d have the ability to pull various positive aspects of their situation. You’d convey to them different approaches they could try in the future as well as what skill and or lessons they could learn from their situation.  Why is this process so difficult for individuals to implement? Check out this video I found by School of Life on YouTube.  Self-Compassion Exercise by, The School of Life 

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in Business, Family, Inspiration, Lifestyle

3 Ways to Balance Your Time

Between working, running a business, family life, and trying to not become a hermit I’m exhausted by Thursday. It takes a lot of effort to make sure that everything gets done. To make sure that my family doesn’t feel neglected, or the laundry gets done (this doesn’t count folding), I work on my business, and I find my selfish moments. I don’t try to do everything, I aim for balance. A little bit of this gets done, a bit of that can wait.

Here are a couple of ways to help you find balance as well:

1.      Ask for help. I’ve got so much vying for my attention that it’s a wonder I get anything done, but I let others know when I need help.

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Stop wasting time and get focused

We’re almost at the end of the first quarter and it’s time to admit that you waste time on things that honestly just don’t matter. They don’t better you, don’t benefit your future, or bring you money. You’re simply wasting time as an owner when you could be creating money-making activities.

You’re costing your business loss sales when you waste your genius on activities that don’t benefit it.  It’s time to rethink your priorities and how you manage your time. There’s so much to do as an entrepreneur that good time management skills are needed to build a profitable business.

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Don’t quit your job before you’re ready

Don’t selfishly set yourself up for failure because you want to be an entrepreneur. I get it you hate your job, barely tolerate the people, and the money isn’t all that. So you want to quit it to follow your dream of finally starting your own business. But to quit without really assessing where you stand not just financially, but in your business is a selfish move. And not in a good way.

Bianca Robinson,  President of Cayden Cay Consulting tells the story of how “God told me to quit my job. But it wasn’t God, it was my ego. And the dumbest thing I could have done.” And now she encourages all of her clients to stay and work their 9-5, so it can fund their 6-10.

I totally agree with her. As someone who still does both, I can depend on my check regardless of how much I work. I can’t say the same for my business.

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Selfishly Push Yourself

Ladies, it’s almost the end of January and I want to know how you’re doing on your goals? If all you’ve done is write them down in your pretty notebook, I need to get pull it back out. You need to get clear on what goals you really are going to be committed to actually accomplishing. We all know about setting SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Result focused, and Time-bound) goals. But are you giving yourself too much time?

I had to push my goals into overdrive because I realized I would write my to-do list for the week, then do the majority of them Thursday & Friday. I have no clue what I was doing those other days, but it wasn’t productive and I was wasting time. Time, that I kept saying I didn’t have.

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Selfishly Take a Break

It’s the beginning of the year you have all your New Year New Me list, goals, and your tasks for the next 30 days, and you’re over it already. You’re so focused on staying committed to doing it this year, that you end up trying to do it all, ending up with nothing accomplished feeling exhausted.

One of the best pieces of advice my friend Bianca from The Bianca Experience gave me was “take and plan your breaks.” The first time she told me that, I rolled my eyes and gave her my whatever face. All I could think was, I’m the only person running my business if I take a break nothing will get done, literally.

But I needed that break because I was on the verge of burnout. I mean I was starting to hate working in my business, it was this all-consuming force that was taking everything from me and giving very little in return. That break allowed me to take a step back and come back even more focused.

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